Monday, November 17, 2014

The M.Guy Tweet, Week of November 9, 2014

1. America’s Relationship Status, In Five Maps [Visual], The Washington Post
The FlowingData blog has created these fascinating maps of America’s marital status: The counties in the US with the highest proportion of married, never married, divorced, separated and widowed people.

2. Millennials Have Inherited The Black Marriage Gap, National Public Radio
The cultural change with marriage has been so sweeping that everyone wants someone who they will regard as a soul mate, if you will. The challenge is that it's very difficult to realize that ideal if you're not affluent and well-educated.

3. Marriage Is Pro-Growth, National Review Online
Wilcox and Lerman write that 51 percent of the 1980-2000 decline in male employment is due to the drop in marriage rates, and is highest among unmarried men. 

4. Four-in-Ten Couples are Saying “I Do,” Again, Pew Research
[A]lmost 42 million adults in the U.S. have been married more than once, up from 22 million in 1980.

5. For A Lasting Marriage, Try Marrying Someone Your Own Age, The Atlantic
Marriage is, above all, about 50-50 partnership; differences in ages also mean differences in life experience and cultural reference points.

6. Marital Demography: The Immigrant Difference, Family Studies
But the central finding from Qian’s report – that neither education nor economics matter as much for immigrant family structures as they do for the U.S.-born – raises a number of questions. 

7. Science Says Lasting Relationships Come Down To 2 Basic Traits, Business Insider
"There's a habit of mind that the masters have," Gottman explained in an interview, "which is this: they are scanning social environment for things they can appreciate and say thank you for. They are building this culture of respect and appreciation very purposefully. Disasters are scanning the social environment for partners' mistakes."

For more, see here

Tuesday, November 4, 2014

The M.Guy Tweet, Week of October 26, 2014

1. The Family Deficit, The Washington Post
Sawhill quotes from one respected study that “married women and men live longer; they are less likely to be disabled. . . . [They] have better sex than the unmarried and they are less likely to be lonely.”

2. Want A Successful Career? Look For This Trait In A Spouse., The Washington Post
Yet when it came to the effect of a spouse's personality traits on a person's career, only high scores on conscientiousness had any impact, whether positive or negative.

3. Stress And Substance Abuse Increase More For Women Who Divorce Or Separate, Deseret News National
Married men and women are both less likely to use drugs or medications to relax, at about 17 percent, compared to the roughly 30 percent of separated or divorced men and women who say they do.

4. 8 Ways To A Happy Marriage, American Association of Retired Persons
Many people start out with a fixed idea of what they want from a partner, which becomes an excuse to break up the relationship when they (inevitably) don't get exactly what they expected. Flexible people, by contrast, work hard to figure out their partner, then readjust their expectations as necessary.

5. The Ideal And The Reality Of European Family Size, Family Studies
So it is an open question whether the two-child ideal will contribute to a fertility rebound or the realities of European life will suppress (and possibly even erode) that ideal.

6. For Richer, For Poorer: How Family Structures Economic Success In America [VIDEO], American Enterprise Institute
How much do changes in marriage and family stability affect this shifting economic landscape, the economic status of men, and the health of the American dream?

7. What An Intact Family Has To Do With The American Dream, In Six Charts, American Enterprise Institute
[A]bout one-third of recent increases in family-income inequality and male joblessness, and a significant share of median family-income stagnation, can be linked to the declining share of Americans who are getting and staying married.

For more, see here.

Tuesday, October 21, 2014

The M.Guy Tweet, Week of October 12, 2014

1. Four Ways To Divorce-Proof Your Marriage, Today
If you earn between $50,000 and $75,000 a year, divorce is 39 percent less likely.

2. The Divorce-Proof Marriage, The Atlantic
Couples who dated for at least three years before their engagement were 39 percent less likely to get divorced than couples who dated less than a year before getting engaged.

3. For More Millennials, It's Kids First, Marriage Maybe, National Public Radio
Among young women without a college degree — those like Michelle Sheridan — 55 percent of births are outside marriage, according to an analysis by the research group Child Trends. For those with at least a four-year degree, it's just 9 percent.

4. A Nation Divided By Marriage, Washington Examiner
We know. . . that Americans who pursue a success sequence, in which they first get educated, then get jobs, then get married, then have kids, in that sequence, enjoy markedly higher levels of economic success as well as a lower risk of divorce and poverty.

5. For Richer, For Poorer: How Family Structures Economic Success In America, American Enterprise Institute
How much do changes in marriage and family stability affect this shifting economic landscape, the economic status of men, and the health of the American dream?

6. Couples Who Met Online Three Times More Likely To Divorce, The Telegraph
[T]he new research from Michican suggests that 86 percent of online daters were concerned that profiles contained false information suggesting that trust may have been damaged at an early stage in the relationship.

7. Why Marriage Is the Best Environment for Kids, Brookings Institution
[O]ne of the central themes of the book: how to change “drifters” into “planners” in order to “have people take responsibility and make explicit choices about when to have children, whether to have children, who to have children with, and not to treat it so casually.”

For more, see here.

Monday, October 6, 2014

The M.Guy Tweet, Week of September 28, 2014

1. More Americans Forgo Marriage As Economic Difficulties Hit Home, Wall Street Journal
One in five U.S. adults aged 25 or older had never been married in 2012, a record high, according to a new report by the Pew Research Center that analyzed Census data.

2. Marriage Rates Keep Falling, As Money Concerns Rise, New York Times
Educated, high-income people are still marrying at high rates and tending to stay married, according to economists and demographers who study the issue. Remaining unmarried is more common among the less educated, blacks and the young, Pew found.

3. I Do? No Thanks. The Economics Behind America's Marriage Decline, The Washington Post
In the Pew Research survey, 78 percent of women rated someone with a steady job as “very important” when choosing a spouse. For men, 70 percent said having similar ideas about raising children was most important in choosing a spouse.

4. Convincing Millennials to Invest in MarriageFamily Studies
[I]f young adults come to see. . . marriage as a good not just for the married couple, but for the community, they might see it as something worth doing—and something doable—despite those financial obstacles.

Child poverty is an astounding 45.8 percent for children in single-mother households. For children in married-parent households, it’s nearly five times lower, at 9.5 percent.

“They’re less likely to get divorced. It might be the experience early in life of learning to share so much and live with the exceptional stress of having all those different personalities to deal with.”

7. Reforming the Bachelor and Bachelorette Party, Family Studies
This generation of couples bound for the altar deserves better than feeling trapped in the remnants of “bad ‘80s sex comedies.”

For more, see here.

Monday, September 29, 2014

The M.Guy Tweet, Week of September 21, 2014

Due to vacation schedules, this installment of The M.Guy Tweet will be postponed by one week. Thanks!

Monday, September 15, 2014

The M.Guy Tweet, Week of September 7, 2014

1. Happy Reunions Can Obscure the Challenges that Military Families Face after Deployment, The Washington Post
A study published last year in the Journal of Population Economics found that every month of deployment increased the risk of divorce, but only for couples married for fewer than five years.

2. The Motherhood Penalty vs. the Fatherhood Bonus, The New York Times
For men, meanwhile, having a child is good for their careers. They are more likely to be hired than childless men, and tend to be paid more after they have children.

3. Amicable Divorce 'Is Just as Damaging for Children': Impact of A Split on Youngsters Is Same if Couple Remain Friends or Not, Daily Mail 
"Getting on well might make the parents feel better about their split. But it does little for the children. To them it makes sense if the parents get on well yet won't live together. The 'good divorce' is a myth."

4. Making Marriage-Minded Decisions, National Review Online
People could afford to think more about what they really want, think about what will help them get there, and make decisions about their love - and sex - lives rather than just letting things happen. Too many people give up a lot of options before they have made a choice. 

5. Love Is All You Need: Insights from the Longest Longitudinal Study on Men Ever Conducted, The Art of Manliness
In 1938, researchers at Harvard’s medical school began a study that aimed to. . . discover what factors lead to an “optimum” life. . . “It was the capacity for intimate relationships that predicted flourishing in all aspects of these men’s lives.”

6. AHMREI (The Alabama Healthy Marriage & Relationship Education Initiative) Promo Video, Youtube
"When individuals are empowered with more knowledge and skills - that are science-based skills - they are going to make better decisions and they're going to have healthier relationships. It's good for them. It's good for their children. It spills over into the workplace. And that builds stronger communities."

7. How Conservatives Can Save the Safety Net, American Enterprise Institute
AEI's Brad Wilcox explained how education, work, and family are the core institutions through which the American dream can be made more accessible for struggling Americans.

For more, see here.

Tuesday, September 2, 2014

The M.Guy Tweet, Week of August 24, 2014

1. Lessons for All of Us Can Be Found in the McDonnells’ Imploding Marriage, The Washington Post
“You should be listening to try to understand what your partner’s worldview is, not just listening to gather information with which you can defend the way you see things. . ."

2. The Decisive Marriage, The New York Times
“Couples who slide through their relationship transitions have poorer marital quality than those who make intentional decisions about major milestones,” Dr. Rhoades and her colleagues wrote.

3. Could Relationship History Hinder Your Chance of a Happy Marriage?, Medical News Today
"In most areas, more experience is better. . . When it comes to relationship experience, though, we found that having more experience before getting married was associated with lower marital quality."

4. MatriMoney: For the Newly Wed, Having Open, Ongoing Money Talks is Key, The Denver Post
Kennedy herself is a proponent of a "his, hers and theirs" approach, which can be a good middle ground between "all-in" and "all-separate.

5. A 'Fatherhood Bonus' for Working Dads Can Benefit Moms Too, The Los Angeles Times
If the fatherhood bonus encourages more dads to take on childcare responsibilities, that’s great for women, who often carry the larger parenting load, and for men, who will get to be more involved in their kids’ daily lives without fear of jeopardizing their career.

6. Best-selling Authors to Hold Marriage 'Date Night' in Jackson, The Jackson Sun
[S]he and Les were motivated to share the "growing mountain" of research about fighting within a marriage — including the fact that a marriage's success can be based on the way a couple handles conflict with more than a 90 percent accuracy rate.

7. How Does Unemployment Affect Family Arrangements for Children?, Urban Institute
We find that for children initially living with two parents, an unemployment event is associated with a higher probability of a transition to any other type of family.

For more, see here.