Wednesday, July 30, 2014

The M.Guy Tweet, Week of July 20, 2014

1. If Marriage Moves Beyond Our Means, The New York Times
The situation is the most dire at the bottom of the economic ladder, where marriage “has all but disappeared in the poorest communities” — though not from a lack of respect for it, the authors say.

2. Marriage Falls Out of Favour for Young Europeans As Austerity And Apathy Bite, The Guardian
"But there are also economic causes because marriage means having a celebration and often this celebration is big and costs a lot. So in a time of crisis like this, people live together in an [unmarried] cohabitation."

3. The Best Way to Make Up After Any Argument, The Wall Street Journal
 "The biggest thing in making up is to understand that conflict is normal in a relationship," says Hal Shorey, a clinical psychologist and associate professor. . . "You don't want to avoid it. You want to manage it."

4. Are Evangelicals Bad for Marriage?, National Review Online
Using Add-Health data, Charles E. Stokes, Amber Lapp, and David Lapp looked at divorce risk among religiously affiliated people who marry “early” (ages 18 to 26) and found that for both conservative Protestants and Catholics, church attendance (but not affiliation) dramatically reduces divorce.

5. Marriage About More Than Finding Soul Mate: Column, USA Today
"With women more empowered to support themselves and marriage partially drained of its economic purpose, the young are inclined to focus on marriage's potential for deep emotional and sexual connection."

6. Millennials Say No to Marriage, CNN Money
If the current pace continues, more than 30% of Millennial women will remain unmarried by age 40, nearly twice the share of their Gen X counterparts, according to a recent Urban Institute report.

7. Moving In and Moving On, Family Studies
[C]ouples with clear plans to marry before cohabiting, along with those who marry without cohabiting, tend to have happier marriages and lower odds of divorce than those who move in together before having a clearly settled commitment to the future in marriage.

For more, see here.

Monday, July 14, 2014

The M.Guy Tweet, Week of July 6, 2014

1. Our Love Affair With Predicting Divorce, The New York Times
By analyzing how the couples talked, the study authors. . . were able to create a model that predicted with close to 94 percent accuracy which of them would be divorced within three years. 

2. How Men and Women Think Differently About Divorce, Family Studies
To put that more simply: Thinking about leaving one’s marriage was associated more with an absence of positive connection for women and the presence of negative interaction for men.

3. Love & Lust, Psychology Today
In the prime years, ages 25 to 59, married individuals were five times more likely to have sex two to three times a week (25 percent) than singles (5 percent).

4. More Kids Born Outside Marriage, But Fewer Teen Birth, The Wall Street Journal 
In 1976, 30.8% of women between the ages of 25 and 29 were childless. In 2012, the number was 49.4%.

5. The National Marriage Age Is Increasing, But Not For This Group Of People, Deseret News
Women who don't put off marriage are beginning to say that marriage is a just as important as career accomplishment.

6. Why The Decline In Marriage Among First-Time Mothers Matters For Their Children, The Washington Post
"[T]hese data suggest that, even over the course of many years, women with a nonmarital first birth do not catch up to their counterparts whose first birth was in marriage."

7. Why Readers, Scientifically, Are The Best People To Fall In Love With, Elite Daily
[T]hose who read fiction are capable of the most empathy and “theory of mind,” which is the ability to hold opinions, beliefs and interests apart from their own.

For more, see here.

Monday, June 16, 2014

The M.Guy Tweet, Week of June 8, 2014

1. Daddy's Influence? The Surprising Connection Between Fathers And Their Offspring During Pregnancy, Today
Infants whose fathers were absent— and had no involvement in the pregnancy— were more likely to be born with lower birth weight and to be born prematurely. 

2. Protecting Women and Girls, National Review Online
We were particularly concerned with spotlighting the danger that family instability — and the presence of an unrelated male in the home — poses to girls (and boys), a danger that is markedly lower for children in intact families.

3. Marriage And Money (Part One) -- Couples' Hindsight After The Honeymoon Is Over, The Wall Street Journal
[W]hen asked about important attributes when considering a spouse, 95 percent of respondents rate "financial responsibility" as important, with "physical attractiveness" and "career ambition" trailing at 86 percent and 77 percent, respectively.

4. For Millennials, Parenthood Trumps Marriage, Pew Research
Pew Research surveys also find that Millennials are less likely than adults ages 30 and older to say that a child needs a home with both a father and mother to grow up happily and that single parenthood and unmarried couple parenthood are bad for society.

5. The Transformative Power of Fatherhood, The National Review Online
Indeed, Harvard sociologist Robert Sampson has found that one of the better predictors of violence at the neighborhood level is the presence of large numbers of fatherless homes.

6. Obama Gets It Right, When It Comes to Fatherhood, Family Studies
Obama’s words are consistent with the general tenor of the research on fatherhood in the United States, which suggests that dads play an important role in increasing the odds that children thrive—emotionally, socially, and economically—across the nation.

7. Social Services Minister Kevin Andrews Says Taxpayers Could Provide Parents With Marriage Education, The Australian
He said before couples had a baby they did antenatal classes, were given information about the birth process and how to look after a new-born but no support was offered to help couples themselves deal with the life-changing event.

For more, see here.

Tuesday, June 3, 2014

The M.Guy Tweet, Week of May 25, 2014

1. One Wealthy Couple's Mission to Save Marriages, En Masse, National Public Radio
"What most people do, in getting into a serious conversation, is make mistakes right from the beginning. . . So these are structured, sensitive ways to get into — and stay with — a delicate conversation."

2. Pro-Family Policies to Strengthen Marriage and Help Children, Family Studies
Given their size in the population, and the central role that they have played in the American experiment, the growing fragility of family life in Middle America is cause for concern.

3. Many Moral Attitudes Have Changed, but Infidelity Remains Very Unacceptable, Sliding vs. Deciding
People's behavior tilts strongly toward increased faithfulness in marriage while cohabitation is not actually associated with higher levels of fidelity. Many people believe that it is or should be but, in fact, cohabiters have levels of faithfulness similar to daters. 

4. Building Strong Marriages, One at a Time, Public Discourse
Among women with less than a high school diploma, 65 percent of births are to single mothers; among those with no more than a high school diploma, the rate is about 55 percent. . . In contrast, among college graduates, the rate is not much higher than the overall rate back in the 1960s: about 8 percent.

5. 2014 Morning Roundtables: Success Stories of Twogether in Texas, NARME (National Association of Relationship and Marriage Education) Conference
Hear about how premarital legislation in Texas has been put into action. There will be providers from Texas to talk about the success of this program. Come learn how to bring this legislation into your state as well.

6. To Help Young Women, Offer Relief from Student Loan Debt, Family Studies
All of this raises the question: Are women putting off the things that studies consistently find they still want—marriage and family—because they want to, or because they feel like they have no choice?

7. Relate Cambridge Offers Counselling Gift Vouchers as Wedding Presents, BBC
"Relate Cambridge is recognising the importance of the preventative work it does on relationships with the new gift vouchers," the charity's Elaine Taylor said.

For more, see here.

Monday, May 19, 2014

The M.Guy Tweet, Week of May 11, 2014

1. Mother's Day 100-Year History A Colorful Tale Of Love, Anger and Civic Unrest, Deseret News
As they celebrate the day with their moms, most children — young or old — won’t know it’s in fact a holiday with a colorful history, started by a woman who adored her own mother but later tried very hard to take the holiday back.

2. Divorce Corp Documentary: How To Make Divorce Better, Forbes
The name of the film is Divorce Corp. . . It’s a $50 billion a year industry. How did it become this big? What are the problems with the current process, and what are some of the solutions?

3. Kevin Durant And The Absence Of Fathers, The Seattle Times
As such, the speech was a testimony to the power of a mother’s love. But it was also a reminder: A father’s absence has power, too. [See tribute to his mother here.]

4. Divorce Is Hardest on Already Disadvantaged Children, Family Studies
It was his analysis of the “Marital Instability Over the Life Course” study. . . that showed how it’s not the end of high-conflict marriages that injures children but the end of low-conflict ones. (Half of U.S. divorces are low-conflict.)

5. Love Overcomes Life’s Inevitable Sorrow, The Washington Post
My husband was part of the Grant Study at Harvard, which starting in 1938 examined nearly 300 “normal” male students. . . came to this conclusion about what made the subjects happy: “Happiness is love. Full stop.”

6. Why Men Resist Marriage Even Though They Benefit the Most From It, Family Studies
They associated marriage with a number of increased responsibilities and with a greater possibility of financial loss.

7. In Relationships, Understanding—Not Agreement—Is Key, Why?, Psychology Today
Conflicts in couples’ viewpoints needn’t cause conflicts in their relationship.

For more, see here.

Monday, May 12, 2014

The M.Guy Tweet, Week of April 27, 2014

1. Shotgun Weddings Give Way to Cohabitation in Surprise Pregnancies, The Washington Post
The latest analyses by researchers from those federal agencies — not yet published — suggest a drop to single digits as more couples opt to live together rather than marry and don’t want a child to rush them into marriage.

2. Working-Class Fathers Shouldn’t Be So Easily Dismissed, The New York Times
More and more young women are already making the choice to raise children alone, but while that choice may be rational, we as a society should hesitate before embracing it as a way forward or even accepting it as a done deal.

3. Fewer Marriages, More Divergence: Marriage Projections for Millennials to Age 40, The Urban Institute
We find that the percentage of millennials marrying by age 40 will fall lower than for any previous generation of Americans, even in a scenario where marriage rates recover considerably. 

4. The Case for Divorce Reform, Family Studies
Polling consistently shows that more than half of Americans favor more speed bumps on the road to divorce, especially for couples with children.

5. The Market Forces Behind the Marriage Gap, Family Studies
These changes fundamentally alter marriage markets—that is, the terms on which men and women find it worthwhile to forge lasting relationships—and they do so in ways that take the top and the bottom of the socio-economic system in different directions.

6. New Study Says Divorce Can Be Contagious, CBSNews
The study [from Brown University] found that 75 percent of participants were more likely to get divorced if a friend was divorced, and 33 percent were more likely to end their marriage even if a friend of a friend got divorced.

7. The Science of Happily Ever After: How Millennials Beat the Odds to Find Love, TIME
It’s what social psychologist Barry Schwartz calls the “tyranny of freedom”: a feeling of being overwhelmed, uncertain and anxious when we are given too many choices and no updated framework for managing those choices.

For more, see here.

Tuesday, April 22, 2014

The M.Guy Tweet, Week of April 13, 2014

1. Why Your Spouse May Be ‘Hangry’ for a Fight, ABCNews
“Self-control, impulse control uses energy, both mental and physical. . . When we deplete that energy, we have a higher tendency of doing things we regret, such as hurting our loved ones.”

2. More Women Staying Home With Young Kids, USA Today
Nearly three in 10 American mothers are now stay-at-home moms who don't hold a job outside the home, reversing a long-term decline that hit its low point in 1999, a new survey finds.

3. ‘Marriage Penalty’ Takes A Bite Out Of Working Families, The Washington Post
Despite all the morality rhetoric spewed by some policymakers and pundits, Congress has expressed peculiarly little interest in removing disincentives for married moms to work or for working parents to marry.

4. Women’s Wages Are Up, But Many Families’ Incomes Are Down: Why? A Q&A with Brad Wilcox, AEIdeas
[D]eclines in men’s income and marriage appear to have offset increases in women’s income for a large minority of American families.

5. Ignoring an Inequality Culprit: Single-Parent Families, Wall Street Journal
Abuse, behavioral problems and psychological issues of all kinds, such as developmental behavior problems or concentration issues, are less common for children of married couples than for cohabiting or single parents, according to a 2003 Centers for Disease Control study of children's health. The causal pathways are about as clear as those from smoking to cancer.

6. Why Is The Teen Birth Rate Falling?, Pew Research Center
Furthermore, among never-married teens who have had sex, 78% used a contraceptive method the first time they had sex, 86% used contraception during their most recent sex and 20% used dual methods (e.g., a hormonal method and a condom) during their most recent sex, all significant increases since 1988.

7. Marriage and Happiness: David Blankenhorn Interviews Charles Murray, The Huffington Post
He stresses that "cultural changes are the only effective ones," especially when you want to communicate that "bringing a child into the world when you are not emotionally, intellectually, [or] financially prepared to care for one, is profoundly wrong." 

For more, see here.