Monday, September 29, 2014

The M.Guy Tweet, Week of September 21, 2014

Due to vacation schedules, this installment of The M.Guy Tweet will be postponed by one week. Thanks!

Monday, September 15, 2014

The M.Guy Tweet, Week of September 7, 2014

1. Happy Reunions Can Obscure the Challenges that Military Families Face after Deployment, The Washington Post
A study published last year in the Journal of Population Economics found that every month of deployment increased the risk of divorce, but only for couples married for fewer than five years.

2. The Motherhood Penalty vs. the Fatherhood Bonus, The New York Times
For men, meanwhile, having a child is good for their careers. They are more likely to be hired than childless men, and tend to be paid more after they have children.

3. Amicable Divorce 'Is Just as Damaging for Children': Impact of A Split on Youngsters Is Same if Couple Remain Friends or Not, Daily Mail 
"Getting on well might make the parents feel better about their split. But it does little for the children. To them it makes sense if the parents get on well yet won't live together. The 'good divorce' is a myth."

4. Making Marriage-Minded Decisions, National Review Online
People could afford to think more about what they really want, think about what will help them get there, and make decisions about their love - and sex - lives rather than just letting things happen. Too many people give up a lot of options before they have made a choice. 

5. Love Is All You Need: Insights from the Longest Longitudinal Study on Men Ever Conducted, The Art of Manliness
In 1938, researchers at Harvard’s medical school began a study that aimed to. . . discover what factors lead to an “optimum” life. . . “It was the capacity for intimate relationships that predicted flourishing in all aspects of these men’s lives.”

6. AHMREI (The Alabama Healthy Marriage & Relationship Education Initiative) Promo Video, Youtube
"When individuals are empowered with more knowledge and skills - that are science-based skills - they are going to make better decisions and they're going to have healthier relationships. It's good for them. It's good for their children. It spills over into the workplace. And that builds stronger communities."

7. How Conservatives Can Save the Safety Net, American Enterprise Institute
AEI's Brad Wilcox explained how education, work, and family are the core institutions through which the American dream can be made more accessible for struggling Americans.

For more, see here.

Tuesday, September 2, 2014

The M.Guy Tweet, Week of August 24, 2014

1. Lessons for All of Us Can Be Found in the McDonnells’ Imploding Marriage, The Washington Post
“You should be listening to try to understand what your partner’s worldview is, not just listening to gather information with which you can defend the way you see things. . ."

2. The Decisive Marriage, The New York Times
“Couples who slide through their relationship transitions have poorer marital quality than those who make intentional decisions about major milestones,” Dr. Rhoades and her colleagues wrote.

3. Could Relationship History Hinder Your Chance of a Happy Marriage?, Medical News Today
"In most areas, more experience is better. . . When it comes to relationship experience, though, we found that having more experience before getting married was associated with lower marital quality."

4. MatriMoney: For the Newly Wed, Having Open, Ongoing Money Talks is Key, The Denver Post
Kennedy herself is a proponent of a "his, hers and theirs" approach, which can be a good middle ground between "all-in" and "all-separate.

5. A 'Fatherhood Bonus' for Working Dads Can Benefit Moms Too, The Los Angeles Times
If the fatherhood bonus encourages more dads to take on childcare responsibilities, that’s great for women, who often carry the larger parenting load, and for men, who will get to be more involved in their kids’ daily lives without fear of jeopardizing their career.

6. Best-selling Authors to Hold Marriage 'Date Night' in Jackson, The Jackson Sun
[S]he and Les were motivated to share the "growing mountain" of research about fighting within a marriage — including the fact that a marriage's success can be based on the way a couple handles conflict with more than a 90 percent accuracy rate.

7. How Does Unemployment Affect Family Arrangements for Children?, Urban Institute
We find that for children initially living with two parents, an unemployment event is associated with a higher probability of a transition to any other type of family.

For more, see here.

Sunday, August 17, 2014

The M.Guy Tweet, Week of August 10, 2014

1. The New Instability, New York Times
In 1969, by the time men reached age 25, three-quarters were earning wages that could support a family of four above the poverty line. By 2004, it took until age 30 for the same percentage of men to reach this income level.

2. What Should Couples Do When Downsizing in Retirement?, Wall Street Journal
Downsizing can be a useful way to convert some of this wealth into liquid financial assets to be used for other retirement expenses.

3. Counselors Say Men Are More Willing to Try Couples Therapy When It Focuses on Results, The Wall Street Journal
Dr. Brooks has developed a male-friendly therapy practice . . . that focuses more on practical advice and getting results than on talking through problems.

4. New Campaign Helps Couples See 'Love Nuggets' in Relationships, Deseret News National
Relationships Foundation, a British research organization, found that family break-ups cost the country about $77 billion in 2013.

5. More Unmarried Moms Are Living With Partners, NBCNews
[B]irths in what researchers call “cohabitating unions” jumped to 58 percent of all nonmarital births during the period 2006 to 2010, up from 41 percent in 2002, according to. . . the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.

6. Why Doesn’t Living Together Before Marrying Decrease the Risk of Divorce?, Family Studies
When they move in together, many people increase their constraints for staying in a relationship before they have reached a mutual dedication to doing so.

7. The 29-Year Effects of Having An Educated-Non-Teen Mom, Child Trends
29-Year Effects of Having an Educated, Non-Teen Mom - See more at: http://www.childtrends.org/the-29-year-effects-of-having-an-educated-non-teen-mom/#sthash.JfXWuWK8.dpuf
The 29-Year Effects of Having an Educated, Non-Teen Mom - See more at: http://www.childtrends.org/the-29-year-effects-of-having-an-educated-non-teen-mom/#sthash.JfXWuWK8.dpuf


The 29-Year Effects of Having an Educated, Non-Teen Mom

- See more at: http://www.childtrends.org/the-29-year-effects-of-having-an-educated-non-teen-mom/#sthash.JfXWuWK8.dpuf
The largest gain in an offspring’s income at age 29 is a result of their mother delaying first birth and of her completing high school. - See more at: http://www.childtrends.org/the-29-year-effects-of-having-an-educated-non-teen-mom/#sthash.JfXWuWK8.dpuf
The largest gain in an offsprings' income at age 29 is a result of their mother delaying first birth and of completing high school.

For more, see here.

Wednesday, July 30, 2014

The M.Guy Tweet, Week of July 20, 2014

1. If Marriage Moves Beyond Our Means, The New York Times
The situation is the most dire at the bottom of the economic ladder, where marriage “has all but disappeared in the poorest communities” — though not from a lack of respect for it, the authors say.

2. Marriage Falls Out of Favour for Young Europeans As Austerity And Apathy Bite, The Guardian
"But there are also economic causes because marriage means having a celebration and often this celebration is big and costs a lot. So in a time of crisis like this, people live together in an [unmarried] cohabitation."

3. The Best Way to Make Up After Any Argument, The Wall Street Journal
 "The biggest thing in making up is to understand that conflict is normal in a relationship," says Hal Shorey, a clinical psychologist and associate professor. . . "You don't want to avoid it. You want to manage it."

4. Are Evangelicals Bad for Marriage?, National Review Online
Using Add-Health data, Charles E. Stokes, Amber Lapp, and David Lapp looked at divorce risk among religiously affiliated people who marry “early” (ages 18 to 26) and found that for both conservative Protestants and Catholics, church attendance (but not affiliation) dramatically reduces divorce.

5. Marriage About More Than Finding Soul Mate: Column, USA Today
"With women more empowered to support themselves and marriage partially drained of its economic purpose, the young are inclined to focus on marriage's potential for deep emotional and sexual connection."

6. Millennials Say No to Marriage, CNN Money
If the current pace continues, more than 30% of Millennial women will remain unmarried by age 40, nearly twice the share of their Gen X counterparts, according to a recent Urban Institute report.

7. Moving In and Moving On, Family Studies
[C]ouples with clear plans to marry before cohabiting, along with those who marry without cohabiting, tend to have happier marriages and lower odds of divorce than those who move in together before having a clearly settled commitment to the future in marriage.

For more, see here.

Monday, July 14, 2014

The M.Guy Tweet, Week of July 6, 2014

1. Our Love Affair With Predicting Divorce, The New York Times
By analyzing how the couples talked, the study authors. . . were able to create a model that predicted with close to 94 percent accuracy which of them would be divorced within three years. 

2. How Men and Women Think Differently About Divorce, Family Studies
To put that more simply: Thinking about leaving one’s marriage was associated more with an absence of positive connection for women and the presence of negative interaction for men.

3. Love & Lust, Psychology Today
In the prime years, ages 25 to 59, married individuals were five times more likely to have sex two to three times a week (25 percent) than singles (5 percent).

4. More Kids Born Outside Marriage, But Fewer Teen Birth, The Wall Street Journal 
In 1976, 30.8% of women between the ages of 25 and 29 were childless. In 2012, the number was 49.4%.

5. The National Marriage Age Is Increasing, But Not For This Group Of People, Deseret News
Women who don't put off marriage are beginning to say that marriage is a just as important as career accomplishment.

6. Why The Decline In Marriage Among First-Time Mothers Matters For Their Children, The Washington Post
"[T]hese data suggest that, even over the course of many years, women with a nonmarital first birth do not catch up to their counterparts whose first birth was in marriage."

7. Why Readers, Scientifically, Are The Best People To Fall In Love With, Elite Daily
[T]hose who read fiction are capable of the most empathy and “theory of mind,” which is the ability to hold opinions, beliefs and interests apart from their own.

For more, see here.

Monday, June 16, 2014

The M.Guy Tweet, Week of June 8, 2014

1. Daddy's Influence? The Surprising Connection Between Fathers And Their Offspring During Pregnancy, Today
Infants whose fathers were absent— and had no involvement in the pregnancy— were more likely to be born with lower birth weight and to be born prematurely. 

2. Protecting Women and Girls, National Review Online
We were particularly concerned with spotlighting the danger that family instability — and the presence of an unrelated male in the home — poses to girls (and boys), a danger that is markedly lower for children in intact families.

3. Marriage And Money (Part One) -- Couples' Hindsight After The Honeymoon Is Over, The Wall Street Journal
[W]hen asked about important attributes when considering a spouse, 95 percent of respondents rate "financial responsibility" as important, with "physical attractiveness" and "career ambition" trailing at 86 percent and 77 percent, respectively.

4. For Millennials, Parenthood Trumps Marriage, Pew Research
Pew Research surveys also find that Millennials are less likely than adults ages 30 and older to say that a child needs a home with both a father and mother to grow up happily and that single parenthood and unmarried couple parenthood are bad for society.

5. The Transformative Power of Fatherhood, The National Review Online
Indeed, Harvard sociologist Robert Sampson has found that one of the better predictors of violence at the neighborhood level is the presence of large numbers of fatherless homes.

6. Obama Gets It Right, When It Comes to Fatherhood, Family Studies
Obama’s words are consistent with the general tenor of the research on fatherhood in the United States, which suggests that dads play an important role in increasing the odds that children thrive—emotionally, socially, and economically—across the nation.

7. Social Services Minister Kevin Andrews Says Taxpayers Could Provide Parents With Marriage Education, The Australian
He said before couples had a baby they did antenatal classes, were given information about the birth process and how to look after a new-born but no support was offered to help couples themselves deal with the life-changing event.

For more, see here.