Monday, September 23, 2013

The M.Guy Tweet, Week of September 15, 2013

1. Remarriage Rate Declining As More Opt For Cohabitation, USA Today
Just 29 of every 1,000 divorced or widowed Americans had remarried as of 2011, down from 50 per 1,000 in 1990. 
2. Remarriage Issues Very Different from First Marriages, USA Today
She discusses challenges in remarriage and the forces that make the new partner an "outsider," from children and parenting tasks that put the couple at odds to the uniting of disparate family cultures.
3. Interracial Couples Increasingly Common, Though Many Aren't Marrying, Los Angeles Times
Married or unmarried, interracial couples were more than twice as common in 2012 than in 2000, U.S. Census Bureau data show.

4. Marriage 'No Longer the Foundation Stone of Family Life', The Telegraph
When asked how whether or not people who want to have children “ought to get married” seven out of 10 people agreed in 1989. Last year only four out of 10 people agreed with the idea.

5. Yelling Could Be as Harmful as Hitting Children, New Study Shows, Deseret News
"You feel a lot more responsible for your behavior when you're being corrected by someone you respect and admire. Anything you do to berate or shame a kid erodes that power you have."

6. Don't Waste Money on Your Wedding!, CNN Matrimony
Pick your top three priorities: dress, flowers, food, cake, champagne, music, favors or guest gifts, venue, decor, printed items, photography, videography, reception, transportation, drinks or honeymoon. (Wieber notes that grooms always choose the honeymoon, so brides are really picking one, and then the couple is picking one jointly.)

7. Viral Marriage Advice from Divorced Man: Experts Examine His Tips, LiveScience
"That mindfulness of falling in love again and again, continuing to grow with your partner and fall in love with who they've become. That's what keeps the relationship dynamic."

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Monday, September 16, 2013

Monday, September 9, 2013

The M.Guy Tweet, Week of September 1, 2013

1. Failed Marriages, Fractured Minds, The Family in America: New Research
. . . [I]ndividuals who have suffered “divorce or job loss are up to 3 times more likely to develop a major depressive disorder than those without such event.”

3. Too Many Points of Contact, UK Marriage Newsletter
A survey of 24,000 married people found that using more than five channels (such as social media, texting, instant messaging, etc.) to communicate with your partner actually decreases relationship satisfaction.

3. Study Finds More Divorce After Longer Deployment, The San-Diego Union Tribune
Among those who married before the Sept. 11th terrorist attacks launched an era of combat, a 12-month war zone deployment increased the risk of divorce within three years of marriage by 28 percent.

4. When Women Outnumber Men on Campus: What It Means for Marriage, The Globe and Mail
The growing gender gap in education alone is not responsible [for] falling marriage rates, but it has worked to disenfranchise less-educated women from the marriage market excluding them, and their children, from the economic privileges that go hand in hand with marriage.

5. Divorces in Iowa Lowest Since 1968, Quad-City Times
“Family research shows that when there is financial hardship — and this is society-wide because of the recession — people just tend to maintain the status quo. . ."

6. Task Force Issues Recommendations for Reducing Childhood Poverty, Kansas Health Institute
". . . Government must be mindful of programs and policies that result in keeping individuals in poverty by disincentivizing full-time employment and marriage or incentivizing out-of-wedlock childbirths.”

7. Married Couples, Don't Forget to Date, CNN Parents
"Be disciplined about getting a sitter on a regular basis and taking time for just the two of you outside the home," says Dr. Seth, "and don't be shy about returning to some of the favorite places you used to go as a couple before kids."

For more, see here.

Monday, September 2, 2013

The M.Guy Tweet, Week of August 25, 2013

1. Marriage Lessons: Divorced Man's Top 20 Things to Do Differently, Herald Sun
Posted in late July, Rogers' frank and self-effacing list of marriage dos and don'ts has been shared and reshared by more than 350,000 people around the world, with more than 10,000 likes and hundreds of positive comments.

2. Is Forever Feasible, The Huffington Post
Many young people today begin to run off the road when they get the crucial success sequence wrong (get an education, then get married, then have children). Children whose parents have not followed this life course sequence are, on average, at much greater risk for poverty and poorer outcomes.

3. Children and Divorce: 'I Just Want to Know Why They Broke Up,' The Guardian
"You get the feeling in so many cases that it was easier to pack their bags and split up than to sit down and have a conversation," he says. And the big problem with that is, so many questions are left unanswered for the children at the centre of the split.

4. Keeping Marriage Going Strong Into Your Golden Years, Courier Journal
Individuals can remedy this by doing more things on their own, whether spending time apart with friends or engaging in hobby time without your spouse. . . Brief periods of separation can make the time married couples do spend together feel more meaningful.

5. Why Marriage is (Still) a Vital Pathway to Independence, National Fatherhood Initiative
What parents often neglect, however, is to send a clear message about the importance of marriage—not only its importance as the ideal situation in which to raise children, but how vital it is to parents’ and their children’s eventual independence from one another.   

6. Reduce Childhood Trauma & Adult Health Problems By Teaching Healthy Relationship Skills to Parents, Pioneer Pitch Day
This new approach of teaching at-risk parents the skills necessary to form and sustain long-term, stable romantic relationships to prevent childhood trauma is a primary prevention approach with much potential.

7. The Health Benefits of Gratitude, Meghan Telpner Nutritionista
A wide cross-section research shows that people who feel more appreciated by their partners are more likely to stay committed. So don’t forget to say thank you to your sweetie for doing the dishes, or the laundry, or packing you a delicious lunch.

For more, see here.