Monday, July 29, 2013

The M.Guy Tweet, Week of July 21, 2013

1. Marriage Rate Lowest in a Century, Bowling Green State University
That equals roughly 31 marriages per 1,000 unmarried women. Compare that to 1920, when the marriage rate was a staggering 92.3.

2. Special Forces' Marriages on Shaky Ground, Survey Shows, USA Today
Marriages among many of the nation's elite troops — Navy SEALs, Green Berets, Rangers and others — are so damaged after years of war that one in five commandos say that if given the chance, they would have married someone else or not at all.

3. The Experts: Getting Married? Read These Financial Tips, The Wall Street Journal 
[D]raft our financial dream plan together. How many kids did we want? How often and where would we vacation? How would we handle the fact that one of us had enough for a small down payment on our first house, and the other had no savings at all?

4. Sex on Campus: She Can Play That Game, Too, The New York Times
But Elizabeth A. Armstrong, a sociologist at the University of Michigan who studies young women’s sexuality, said that women at elite universities were choosing hookups because they saw relationships as too demanding and potentially too distracting from their goals.

5. Unmarried Cheating: Stepping Out in Unmarried, Serious Romantic Relationship, Sliding vs. Deciding
The headline is that overall relationship quality mattered most in explaining who, in unmarried romantic relationships, was most likely to step out on their partner. . . Contrary to what you might have guessed, sexual frequency and sexual satisfaction with the partner were not associated with cheating.

6. Chart of the Week: Marriage Guards Children Against Poverty, The Heritage Foundation
“We know the statistics—that children who grow up without a father are five times more likely to live in poverty and commit crime, nine times more likely to drop out of schools, and 20 times more likely to end up in prison,” then-Senator Obama stated in Chicago just a few months before the 2008 presidential election.

7. Power Move: ‘From Fatherless to Fatherhood’ to Air on Oprah Winfrey Network, Atlanta Blackstar
"It provides a glimpse into the lives and perspectives of those from a Hollywood film executive to a mother of six, around the meaning and value of quality manhood and fatherhood."

For more, see here.

Monday, July 22, 2013

The M.Guy Tweet, Week of July 7, 2013

1. How The 'Fatherless Sons' Epidemic Extends To Children Whose Dads Are Present (Oprah VIDEO), The Huffington Post

2. When Couples Cooperate Well, Men Follow Women’s Emotions While Women Regulate, The Washington Post
Researchers from the University of Arizona found that, for couples who cooperate well, men tend to mimic their partner’s mood while women try to regulate their partner’s emotions.

3. Happily Married Means a Healthier Ever After, Science Daily
"[T]his study also shows happy marriages have a preventative component that keeps you in good health over the years."

4. Men and Women Often Expect Different Things When They Move In Together, The Atlantic
Moreover, a large minority (41 percent) of men report that they are not "completely committed" to their live-in girlfriends.

5. Marriage Advice: There Is Truth In The Saying, ‘Love Is Blind’, News-Sentinel
[W]hen we get close to someone and begin to like them, there is reduced activity in the areas of the brain associated with critical social assessment and in the areas necessary for making negative judgments.

6. The Terrible Toll Of Making Divorce Easier: Children Are More Likely To Be Violent, Take Drugs And Have Underage Sex, The Daily Mail
The research revealed the legacy of broken homes appears to weigh more heavily than any other factor, as among the worst affected group -- those with four or more ACEs [adverse childhood experiences] -- two thirds had seen their parents go their separate ways, compared with an average of 24 per cent. 

7. Facilitating Forever, Coalition for Divorce Reform
Scholars and therapists know a lot about how to form and sustain. . . healthy relationships. We need to get that knowledge out of academia’s ivory towers and clinician’s wood-paneled offices to the public.

For more, see here.

Monday, July 8, 2013

The M.Guy Tweet, Week of June 30, 2013

I am out of town on vacation. No M.Guy Tweet this week.

For the latest marriage news, see here.

Monday, July 1, 2013

The M.Guy Tweet, Week of June 23, 2013

1. The Perils of Giving Advice, The Wall Street Journal
[B]oth husbands and wives feel lower marital satisfaction when they are given too much advice from a spouse, as opposed to too little. And—surprise!—unsolicited advice is the most damaging kind.

2. Relationships in Later Life and Why They Matter, Huffington Post
91% of people in couples said their relationship with their partner was the most important thing for a happy retirement.

3. The Disestablishment of Marriage, The New York Times
The rising age of marriage, combined with the increase in divorce and cohabitation since the 1960s, means that Americans spend a longer period of their adult lives outside marriage than ever before.

4. With Stress Down and Happiness Up, Old Age Can Be the Time of Your Life, The Washington Post
Satisfaction with social relationships grows. Seniors typically have a smaller but closer circle of friends than younger adults, research shows. That’s because older people tend to focus on close friends and family members who are important for their emotional bonds.

5. SIMMONS: Cosby Gets Serious about Fatherhood, The Washington Post
“A father. . . who is there for his children, who is there with the mother, completes the love package for the child,” Mr. Cosby said. “[A son] sees that mom is happy, and he can emulate that, carry that love to his own children.

6. The Forever Initiative, The National Healthy Marriage Resource Center
While the causes of family instability are many and deep, Hawkins argues that this public policy agenda of educational initiatives can make more young people today better drivers of their romantic relationships, more competent at avoiding destructive detours, and more capable of achieving their marital aspirations and destinations.

7. Dads Who Bond With Kids Help Keep Marriage Strong, WebMD
Doing household chores and being engaged with the children seem to be important ways for husbands to connect with their wives, and that connection is related to better relationships, Galovan explained.

For more, see here.